Here’s a quick check-up to evaluate your relational health.
Circle “yes” or “no” for each of the following questions, then
add up your total.
Yes No I am content with the state of my relationships
right now.
Yes No If I got hurt or upset, I can think of at least
three friends I could pick up the phone and
talk to about it right now.
Yes No I have at least one really close friend, a “soul
mate” that I can share anything with (in
addition to my spouse).
Yes No I have a wonderful, formal relationship with a
coach, mentor or peer mentor in my life that
helps me grow.
Yes No I have someone I talk to regularly to hold
me accountable for basic personal holiness
issues.
Yes No My home is a peaceful, healthy, respectful
environment. We don’t fight, tear each other
down or snipe at each other.
Yes No I have a good relationship with my parents.
Yes No I can’t think of anywhere I am carrying anger
or a grudge inside me toward another person.
Yes No I do things with people from work outside the
office. We have more than just professional
relationships.
Yes No In the last two weeks I had a conversation with
someone where they opened up and became
very transparent with me.
Yes No I have a healthy social life, with people I can
hang out, relax and recharge with.
There is no “right” score for this evaluation. But here’s a
challenge: will you commit to taking one proactive step that
would change just one “No” to a “Yes”? Write down your step
